Wanna Know a Secret??
Here's my secret, although most people have probably been here at one point or another:
Sometimes I stink at this whole marriage thing. I'm talking about, sometimes I have NO IDEA what I'm doing and just kinda coasting through. Kind of like adulting. Hehe.
But seriously. There are so many things that I never thought about when it comes to marriage. One of those things is, I always thought that I was a pretty good communicator. And maybe I am when it comes to other people. But when it comes to communicating within my marriage, with Edan, boy was I wrong and I stink at it!
For the most part, I don't like confrontation. I would rather just be silent then try to work something out by talking. That sounds really bad, I know. And it drives Edan crazy! He is definitely the better communicator in the relationship. Sometimes I hate that feeling of being exposed, too. And by exposed I mean laying all of my deepest thoughts and feelings in front of someone and being vulnerable.
But by not communicating when I should and not discussing things even though I know it will be difficult, I really have done a disservice to my marriage. All other aspects of the marriage seem to suffer, including the intimacy of really knowing my husband and feeling close. And I know that he feels the same way about feeling close to me.
While there will always be other issues that can impact our marriage in one way or another, I truly believe that having the right conversations and communicating how we should is, and will be, a great help to our relationship.
So the moral of this story, for me and for everyone else, is COMMUNICATE. A lot easier said than done, of course. And it's something that I'm still learning. Even though it can be difficult to "put yourself out there" and be vulnerable, it will be so worth it in the long run.
Sometimes I stink at this whole marriage thing. I'm talking about, sometimes I have NO IDEA what I'm doing and just kinda coasting through. Kind of like adulting. Hehe.
But seriously. There are so many things that I never thought about when it comes to marriage. One of those things is, I always thought that I was a pretty good communicator. And maybe I am when it comes to other people. But when it comes to communicating within my marriage, with Edan, boy was I wrong and I stink at it!
For the most part, I don't like confrontation. I would rather just be silent then try to work something out by talking. That sounds really bad, I know. And it drives Edan crazy! He is definitely the better communicator in the relationship. Sometimes I hate that feeling of being exposed, too. And by exposed I mean laying all of my deepest thoughts and feelings in front of someone and being vulnerable.
But by not communicating when I should and not discussing things even though I know it will be difficult, I really have done a disservice to my marriage. All other aspects of the marriage seem to suffer, including the intimacy of really knowing my husband and feeling close. And I know that he feels the same way about feeling close to me.
While there will always be other issues that can impact our marriage in one way or another, I truly believe that having the right conversations and communicating how we should is, and will be, a great help to our relationship.
So the moral of this story, for me and for everyone else, is COMMUNICATE. A lot easier said than done, of course. And it's something that I'm still learning. Even though it can be difficult to "put yourself out there" and be vulnerable, it will be so worth it in the long run.
Comments
Post a Comment